There truly is hope, even when your heart hurts.

When our heart hurts, it distorts how we view and handle the future. Chaplain Barbel Wray has led Grief Recovery classes since 2004, now 1-on-1 online wherever there is an internet connection.

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Certified Advanced Grief Recovery Method Specialist™

The unfinished things can keep us stuck.

It can stop us in our tracks, scared to trust new people or new situations. That can isolate us and close us off from the world. Barb has sat with people in exactly these places for two decades.

  1. When our heart is broken.
  2. When we can't believedid that.
  3. When life doesn't look like we had thought.
  4. When health worsens for ourselves or someone we love.
  5. When our loved one doesn't recognize us anymore.
  6. When our loved one doesn't learn like other children.
  7. When our miracle didn't happen.
  8. When the ones we thought would fight for us, didn't.
  9. When we thought they would stay, and didn't.

There truly is HOPE.

These practical tools truly help, with confidential support, so that you can apply them, tackle the past, move forward, dream again, thrive & blossom.

Grief is love unfinished.

There are things we wish were ‘better, different, or more’ in a relationship that may have been great or awful.

The work is not dependent on whether the person is in your life, or not, living or not. It is about your healing.

Grief is stemmed from losses in life, these include

death divorce miscarriage moving loss of health loss of trust loss of a dream unfinished relationships

Things we have stored in our heart of hearts that hurt so very much. Without completion of these unfinished relationships it is very difficult to move forward. There are no Stages in Grief, and this healing comes from specific tools and support.

What is grief?

Where Barb sits beside you

Life Coach, Funeral Celebrant, Mentor, Speaker, & Musician. Most people meet Barb in one of three rooms. Everything starts with a conversation.

A plain wooden hall with rows of empty chairs and a closed upright piano by a tall window

Celebration of Life & memorial services

Non-denominational services that reflect the person and the family’s wishes, in the Okanagan Valley in British Columbia, in person or online. Barb helps plan the service and the bulletin, sings, and plays piano, organ or keyboard.

Life coaching

Relationships, boundaries and communication. Career coaching and brainstorming. Setting positive goals and new habits. Life after divorce.

Coaching with Barb

Also in Barb’s care

Faith & voice

Groups & practical help

Seven to ten weeks, one week at a time

FREE, no-obligation, confidential 45 minute consult first. If you are not a good fit, Barb will try and help you find someone who is.

Don’t let $ stop you.

I will work with your budget whenever possible. Classes can also be donated anonymously to people who cannot afford them.

Pricing and donations
First
A free, confidential 45 minute consult on Zoom. Share what has happened and ask anything.
Then
Find a weekly time that works, complete the Client Intake Form, and receive your Zoom link.
Each week
1-on-1 online for 7 to 10 weeks. The first two or three weeks run about an hour, then about two hours. Homework can be printed or kept in a scribbler.
You will need
A smartphone or computer, a headset with a microphone, and The Grief Recovery Handbook. If the internet drops, a backup phone call within North America.
At the end
Complete the homework and at least three relationships, a confidential evaluation at The Grief Recovery Institute®, and a Certificate of Achievement.
The week-by-week outline
Late afternoon light through a linen curtain falling on a lilac plaster wall

A letter from EL

Sent after months of classes with Barb, following the death of their father. Shared on Barb’s own site.

Chaplain Barbel Wray smiling, short auburn hair and glasses
Chaplain Barbel Wray. Being a Heart with Ears.

“After my Dad passed away I was feeling very lost and I didn't know where to turn. One day I went online to research grief therapy, and that's when I stumbled upon Barb's website. ... I truly feel as though God placed Barb in front of me because I was so lost. ... Over the course of several months, Barb helped me to untangle years of trauma and grief that ultimately became too much to bear once my father passed away. I am so grateful for her compassionate and caring nature. ... I feel as though she helped lead me out of the darkness and now I am finally back in the light once more. I encourage anyone seeking wise, caring and compassionate counsel to meet with Barb. Anyone would be lucky to have her walking beside them on their life's journey.”

EL, client letter

Before you reach out

Questions people often carry into the first conversation. Anything else, ask Barb directly at walkingbyfaith@shaw.ca.

It is a FREE, no-obligation, confidential 45 minute consult on Zoom. You can share what has happened and ask any questions, and together you and Barb see whether you are a good fit to work together. If you are not, she will try to help you find someone who is, if you would like that.

You meet 1-on-1 online every week for 7 to 10 weeks, adjusted to what you need. The first two or three weeks run about an hour, then sessions are about two hours. The course is based on The Grief Recovery Handbook©, and the program itself began in 1977.

No. Classes are 1-on-1 online wherever there is an internet connection, on Zoom. If the internet drops, there is a backup phone call within North America. Celebration of Life and memorial services are led in person in the Okanagan Valley in British Columbia, or online.

A smartphone or computer for Zoom, a headset with a microphone, and The Grief Recovery Handbook (20th Anniversary Edition). The weekly homework can be printed or kept in a scribbler.

There are no Stages in Grief. Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss, and it is love unfinished: the things we wish had been different, better or more. The classes give you specific tools to complete what was left unfinished.

Don't let $ stop you. Barb will work with your budget whenever possible. Others can also donate classes anonymously, and 100% of those gifts go to people who cannot afford them.
The same quiet room in late light, a linen curtain at an open window beside an empty reading chair

My passion is to be present for you in your grief.

FREE, no-obligation, confidential 45 minute consult on Zoom. Helping you tackle your past, move forward, dream again, thrive & blossom.

Request your free consultCall (250) 306-8721

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